Don’t Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Don’t Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Always Do Your Best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
SZA Brings out Willow Smith in Brooklyn
I can’t wait to hear the studio version of this song, these ladies sound amazing, and it’s great to see how WIllow has grown as an artist.
- me: sometimes i talk to myself
- me: omg same
These are some of the many things we have white people to thank for.
Well, kind of. While technically they didn’t “discover” them in the traditional sense of the word, white folks inarguably “Columbused” every single one of these treasures.
That last picture made me cry out after I noticed the sign behind them.
Elegant Racism knows how to appear politically correct and how important it is to maintain that appearance.
Kanye West - All of the Lights (feat. Rihanna, Elly Jackson of La Roux, Kid Cudi, Fergie, Alicia Keys & Elton John)
[Produced by Kanye West & co-produced by Jeff Bhasker]
Additional vocals: Tony Williams, The-Dream, Charlie Wilson, John Legend, Ryan Leslie, Drake, Alvin Fields & Ken Lewis
In 2010, Kanye West flew various artists out to work on his sixth, now universally acclaimed 5th studio album My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy, in Hawaii. One of the songs Kanye started working on early was a song, titled then, as Ghetto University with only Malik Yusef & Elton John. Kanye, at first, didn’t want the song on the album because he “didn’t feel it was good enough.” Malik instilled the idea of a different chorus, that would be then written for Rihanna, and it took off from there.
Kanye had then wrote the remainder of the song with Malik & Elton, and got the brilliant idea to write certain bits of the song for certain artists, which brought him the idea to fly 15 artists out to do each part he had written for the respective artists.
The record centers around one specific bit, and a bit Kanye wanted to make extremely special, and that’s the bridge of the song, the bridge is a duet of Kid Cudi’s bit over Elton John’s piano medley. If you know the bridge, then you know it’s mind-blowing brilliant.
* & if the rumors and stories are true, Kid Cudi’s bridge bit was done in one take. ONE TAKE.
The remainder bits of the song take after back vocal effects and vocal harmonizing by The-Dream, Charlie Wilson, Drake, John Legend, Ryan Leslie, Tony Williams, Alvin Fields & Ken Lewis.
Basis of the record: Rihanna has the chorus, Elly Jackson has the pre-chorus, Kanye has 2 of the 3 verses, Kid Cudi & Elton John’s duet is the centerpiece, Fergie has the third and final verse with a bridge finish break in the beat, and Rihanna & Drake share a brief third break in the song prior to the finale where the remaining vocalists bring us home with the finish providing a second duet by Elton John, but this time, trading vocals with Alicia Keys, and summing up the grand finale by The-Dream.
Literally never in my life did I realize that
- Alicia Keys
- The Dream
- John Legend
were in All of the Lights. Never.
Actor and feminist, Terry Crews, sheds light on the whole “man up” ideology that young boys are taught in early stages of life. Boys should not play with certain toys that aren’t Tonka Trucks or G.I. Joe’s. Boys should never cry because that is what girls do. Boys should not… blah, blah, blah.
When boys are taught to “man up,” society compares weakness with femininity, and sometimes just being a female is considered weakness, How many times have you heard “Don’t be a pussy” come out the mouths of teenage boys and grown men? Society associates having a “pussy” with weakness. Women are emotional and fragile creatures in a male dominant society and in order for this dominance to remain, men must act like a “man.” A “man” within societal standards is strong, emotionless, intelligent, and aggressive (not necessarily violent, but aggressive in terms of determination and work ethic). To be a “man” society forces men and young boys to suppress what makes them human: emotions, feelings, compassion.
As Terry Crews points out in this interview with Larry King, within the African American community, men are pressured to act a certain way by society. There is a stigma that surrounds African American men, the media portrays them as aggressive, violent, and generally what society expects from a “man.” Men are told to “not be so sensitive” and “don’t be such a girl” when it comes to issues that involve their emotions and feelings. If someone is offended they have every damn right to be upset, sensitivity is not solely for women, sensitivity and feeling are what make you human. Being “feminine,” “sensitive,” or a “girl” does not make you weak. It makes you human.
They don’t hear you tho.
Have I mentioned how much I love Terry Crews today?
Because Terry is fucking important as fuck
A List of “Men’s Rights” Issues That Feminism Is Already Working On
Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their “traditional” marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be lonely and we do not hate “nice guys.” The idea that certain people are inherently more valuable than other people because of superficial physical attributes is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to pay for dinner. We want the opportunity to achieve financial success on par with men in any field we choose (and are qualified for), and the fact that we currently don’t is part of patriarchy. The idea that men should coddle and provide for women, and/or purchase their affections in romantic contexts, is condescending and damaging and part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be maimed or killed in industrial accidents, or toil in coal mines while we do cushy secretarial work and various yarn-themed activities. The fact that women have long been shut out of dangerous industrial jobs (by men, by the way) is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to commit suicide. Any pressures and expectations that lower the quality of life of any gender are part of patriarchy. The fact that depression is characterized as an effeminate weakness, making men less likely to seek treatment, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be viewed with suspicion when you take your child to the park (men frequently insist that this is a serious issue, so I will take them at their word). The assumption that men are insatiable sexual animals, combined with the idea that it’s unnatural for men to care for children, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be drafted and then die in a war while we stay home and iron stuff. The idea that women are too weak to fight or too delicate to function in a military setting is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want women to escape prosecution on legitimate domestic violence charges, nor do we want men to be ridiculed for being raped or abused. The idea that women are naturally gentle and compliant and that victimhood is inherently feminine is part of patriarchy.
Feminists hate patriarchy. We do not hate you.
If you really care about those issues as passionately as you say you do, you should be thanking feminists, because feminism is a social movement actively dedicated to dismantling every single one of them. The fact that you blame feminists—your allies—for problems against which they have been struggling for decades suggests that supporting men isn’t nearly as important to you as resenting women. We care about your problems a lot. Could you try caring about ours?
Excerpt from If I Admit That Hating Men is a Thing, Will You Stop Turning it Into a Self-fulfilling Prophecy?, by Lindy West (via lilac-time)
fucking THANK YOU
this is a BIG thing that men don’t get about feminism and patriarchy.
I’ve reblogged this before but it bears repeating